Bible Verse: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
Scripture Reading: Colossians 3:12-14
My daughter recently showed me her school project on cancer. She talked about how cancer occurs when normal cells become corrupted and change from being helpful to harmful. How cancer starts as something small and grows over time; the growth can be rapid, or it can take place very slowly over many years. She talked about the different habits and things that can contribute to cancer starting. There are a variety to medical treatments for cancer, but successful treatment is greatly affected by how early the cancer is found. She was amazed that something so small that it seemed harmless could grow into something throughout your body that could kill you.
One of the greatest risks to an altruistic marriage is resentment.
Like cancer it usually starts small. You give up eating the last piece of cake you wanted because you know your spouse would like it and they don’t say thank you. You make a great supper, but they complain about part of it. They always seem to pick the movie they want to watch. You always seem to be the one to get the kids in the night, clean up the mess, work long hours, give little compliments, or fix things, and they don’t seem to appreciate your sacrifice. If we do not watch our attitude, resentment can start to seep in.
Resentment is a lot like cancer; it starts small and grows over time. The enemy likes to keep reminding us of how we have been offended, feeding our resentment until it grows into bitterness—or even anger—choking out our love for each other. Each of us has met someone who has become bitter over the years because they have allowed resentment to take root and grow. Left untreated, resentment can kill relationships.
Forgiveness is the best treatment for resentment. It is important to properly communicate our feelings and improve our marriage but without forgiveness there will always be resentment.
Don’t let resentment grow in your heart.
— Jeff Stearns, Content Director, Promise Keepers Canada
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