A large part of being a Christian man, who is sexually successful, is leaving a positive and healthy legacy for your sons. Sons look to their fathers for modelling in every area of their life, yet we rarely take a moment and think what kind of sexual role model we’ve
Aug 21st 2018I got an email from an old camp friend: “We need to talk. Can we go for lunch?” I hadn’t seen him in ten years. He knew I was a documentarian, but I had no idea what he wanted to talk about. We went out for lunch, and he cut
Aug 14th 2018We live in a sexualized culture. We are surrounded by allures every day, bombarded by images and messages — and we don’t always mind the onslaught. Sex sells. Walk through your happy local mall and you are blasted by sexualized ads and music inviting you in like the seductress of
Aug 7th 2018Every great marriage I know has a great sex life. God’s good gift of sex breathes oxygen into a marriage and creates bonds of intimacy that can grow without limit, which is why great sex is common to great marriages. But listen carefully — contrary to commonly held belief, frequency
Jul 31st 2018In the 1960s there was a popular song recorded by The Byrds that riffed on a famous passage from Ecclesiastes. The song proclaimed, “To everything there is a season” and went on to quote the wisdom of the Biblical book by pointing out that life and love are cyclical. We
Jul 24th 2018#MeToo and #ChurchToo have been telling the stories of men sexually assaulting and harassing women. Many of us have people in our lives who have been victims of sexual assault. Men quite often struggle with what to do in these conversations, and don’t always respond in a way that reflects
Mar 1st 2018We recently had a conversation with author, blogger, and Christian sex expert Sheila Wray Gregoire on sex and the different “seasons” of marriage. One of our first questions for her was “how can a guy set himself up for future success [in the bedroom] before he’s even married?” Below is
Feb 22nd 2018I wish someone would sell a big reset button that we could use in the bedroom. Many of us could really use one. We’ve developed some bad habits, sex has become blah, and now we’re not sure how to find passion again—if the passion was ever there in the first
Feb 14th 2017The messages that we hear in Christian circles about sex in marriage sound like huge guilt trips. Take this one, which many marriage books lob at women: “Men are totally visually stimulated and are tempted all the time. They truly need sex, and so women should give it to them, at least every 48-72 hours.
May 31st 2016I fell in love by accident, which is out of character for me. I am a compulsive planner. I have to-do lists of to-do lists, and though falling in love was on that long-ago list, I meant to fall in love with someone else. But one day, while I was
Apr 28th 2016